Well... hello out there. I haven't written anything here for quite awhile. Wait, thats not completely true, I have written quite a few things, fiddled with them and then deleted them. I think that I was stressing about judgement so here is the new plan. I am going to write here as often as I please, about whatever I want. No alerts sent out to the ether so people can come see. This is what I originally intended. To write about my life, thoughts, things I am succeeding at, failing at, how to find balance, with some food shit thrown in as well; because I tend to see a lot of my life through a food lens. Some posts will have pictures, some not. So here we go..
What comprises a family? Is it a Mother, Father and children: no children, two mothers, two fathers, grandparents, close friends, separated or divorcing parents? Is it the house, apartment, the table you sit at to eat, the beds you sleep in, how many beds? There is a line from a book I love "who decides who you love and how much" much like who decides what makes up a family. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. Are families only whole and solid units or can they be what ever you decide you want them to be. One of my favourite food bloggers completely changed what her family looks like, however she still loves, cooks for and eats with her people slightly changed they may be. Several of my friends are changing what their family looks like and that change is hard. Hard work on yourself to discover what you might like to do differently, hard work to communicate with your changing partner, hard work to keep your children feeling secure, hard work to allow your friends to help you or share a bit of the heartache. Its all hard, but it is my opinion that almost everything that is valuable or real requires a shit ton of effort or work. As my friends transition from what they knew through the unknown, back to known; its very interesting to watch new family units and formations being formed. Some friends are heading into the storm and some are moving through the painful process of ending a relationship and some are coming out the other side into newness. What is remaining a constant is everyones need to still be a part of a family. To end your day, enter whatever walls you live within, greet your partner, children, roommates, friends, pets. Feel love, give love. I myself am sending out love right now.
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